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How To Understand Men? 5 Insights on Men To Ease Your Worries

Understanding men is something that many women resist, subconsciously or consciously.

You have come here because you want to know how to understand men better, and I commend you for that.

I believe that understanding = knowledge. And knowledge = power.

When you understand men, it gives you superpowers (with men), and though men can be frustrating, understanding men will give you a sense of freedom from your worries in a relationship.

When you are on a quest to understand men, there are two important fundamental principles that I want you to know.

Because I find that it’s very easy to forget all the little details and everything else when you are stressed out or upset about your relationship issues.

And it’s helpful to remember these two fundamentals before you make decisions that you will regret.

Table of Contents

How Do I Understand A Man?

There are two ways to understand a man.

Let’s delve into both of these right now. Here are the two most fundamental principles on understanding men…

Principle #1: Most Of The Things You Worry About With Men Are Actually Nothing To Worry About.

You see, we worry for our reasons, with our feminine hormones and feminine brain.

We think that he is not calling, for example, because we haven’t shown enough interest in him.

And so we call him and chase him out of fear; rather than thinking it through it first.

Yet, the bottom line is that if he wants to call, he will eventually.

As women, we have what we call a feminine bias. We overanalyse and read other meanings into things.

Here’s some examples of this feminine bias and how we think about men’s behaviours:

Oh, did he say that because he actually meant something else?

He looks intense. He must really hate me right now.

Does he really mean what he said?

What does it mean when he said he has a meeting at 5pm?

It means he has a meeting at 5pm.

And men usually mean nothing more than exactly what they said.

And he probably looks intense because he’s busy, focused, or stressed due to missions and projects that he has not finished.

What We Tend To Worry About (& Why We Shouldn’t)

We also tend to worry…

“What if he leaves me for Fiona?”

“What if I don’t compare to other women?”

“What if I am not interesting enough?”

“And what if Shelley is prettier than me and he will leave me for Shelley?”

If you’re already a man’s ‘one’ and he’s committed, then he’s not going to compare you to other women. Nor will he leave you for someone prettier.

Let me explain why.

All Your Imperfections Are Just A Part Of What Make Him Love You

First of all, if you’re a man’s one and only woman (rather than the one of many woman), you’re the ultimate woman to him.

All your imperfections are just a part of what make him love you. Men don’t fall in love with perfect women.

So, no. Men don’t compare their ‘one and only’ to any other woman.

This is due to the fact that she is the one they fell in love with and formed a romantic union with.

She is the one and only, and could never be put in the basket of ‘one of many’ women.

(Yes, men categorize women into one of two baskets. The one and only basket, or the one of many basket.)

If you would like to deepen your understanding of how to show up as the one and only woman, I teach the 5 secrets to have him fall in love with you and beg you to be his one and only here.

A man is not going to leave you for a prettier woman!

It does not work that way. Men leave a woman if they do not feel any emotional attraction and emotional connection for her.

They leave if the woman doesn’t show up high value.

(High value is mostly about your radiance, your responsiveness and a few other things which I discuss in my article 3 Things that Make You A High Value Woman to Men.)

In a similar vein, we think our boyfriend or husband didn’t do that thing for us because he doesn’t love us enough or care enough.

But really, it’s usually because he didn’t feel, see and hear our request in the form of our emotions.

Ie: he didn’t feel and see our request in a way that would give him urgency and compel him do it for us.

It’s only feeling our emotions that can do that. It’s usually not because a man doesn’t care, but our feminine brain interprets his actions that way.

(If you’re with a toxic, narcissistic man, then this won’t apply. As this kind of man will only abuse your emotions further).

Case Study: Learn How our member Alison went from attracting perpetual abusive relationships… …To finally learning the skill of weeding out the wrong types of men, and passing the hardest test of them all… an accidental pregnancy after a month of dating! (…All by learning one simple skill.)

Principle #2: Men Are Not Bigger, Stronger, Faster Females.

One of the most damaging things you can come to believe is that men aren’t that different from women.

Look:

In one way, it is true. They aren’t that different from women, because we’re all human.

But in many ways, they are very different from women. A different species, some would say!

It’s been shown that there is such a thing as a female and male brain. In other words, our brains are different.

Studies like this have shown that men and women appear to have different ways to encode memories, sense emotions, recognize faces, solve certain problems, and make decisions.

So men are different to women in many ways. Yet the main difference which you should be most concerned with, is the differences in their reproductive agenda.

This means that we always have to be open to questioning the meaning that we place on what men do.

You see, we assume we know why people do things.

And we assume we know why men do things.

Most women can’t see past their own feminine bias of thinking.

Nor can they see past their own thoughts, into a man’s world.

But it’s important to have this skill!

(If you want to have the skill of knowing how to read a man, try our Understanding Men Course here.)

If you can have this level of openness and humility with men, then you will develop an infinite capacity for understanding men!

As you understand more, you can feel infinitely confident with men, and worry much less.

The fact that men aren’t bigger, stronger faster women doesn’t always mean that men can’t do what women do, and vice versa.

It just means that a woman is the better person to do some particular things.

(Like, breastfeed the baby! Because she has an innate gift and biology for it.)

These innate differences go beyond social constructs.

They also go beyond political agendas to try to get women to think that men and women are essentially the same.

It’s also these innate differences that causes emotional and physical attraction.

However, even though it’s our differences with men that cause attraction, it’s also these differences that cause misunderstandings and pain.

Through all my own struggles understanding my husband, here’s the best thing I’ve discovered:

Male and female differences cause us pain. Despite that, the universe DID make sure that women are well taken care of…

Take Advice On Men From Your Girlfriends With A Grain Of Salt

As much pain as the differences between men and women cause us, evolution has also made men and women work perfectly together in many ways.

As a woman, evolution didn’t ditch you and make you suffer at the hands of guys behaviour forever.

You are actually far better taken care of than you or any other woman would ever have you believe.

As long as you take understanding men seriously, you will be in a much better position to protect yourself, and know have to navigate the waters with men.

It’s just that taking dating or relationship advice from girlfriends often makes us dumber, and more stressed.

Women Get Women…

This is because most women get women; they don’t get men!

Which means that 99 percent of what women think, and the meaning we place on male actions, is incorrect and only causes us more worry and anxiety.

When you stop taking advice from friends who may not be good at getting out of their own heads and in to your man’s head…

And when you stop taking advice from friends who may not want the best for you…

You start to trust your own decisions more.

And that’s a good place to be.

When you trust the poor quality female advice less, and develop your own direction more, you may start to see that men actually want to be there for you!

They want to commit to you, and take care of you.

In fact, my husband wrote a popular article sharing that there are 3 very good reasons why all men secretly love to commit.

Evolution made men this way!

But men are wired to take care of a certain type of woman.

The right woman! The woman they see as high value we will talk more about these two things soon).

Understanding Men Tip: Men Are Responding To You.

Try to remember that men are responding to your energy.

And of course, women are always responding to how men show up around them too.

What does this mean?

This means that how you show up around men is crucial to your relationship success.

If you show up as low value, or less than you can be, you will get far worse than low value in return.

Sometimes, you get nothing. But when you show up as a high value woman, you get far more than you bargained for.

CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report. (Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)

What Do You Worry About When It Comes To MEN?

I can remember the days when I’d stress constantly about how a man I liked might think of me.

I was also very quick to make terribly wrong assumptions about men that were…well, wrong!

Wrong enough that assuming these things was just ignorant of me.

Have you ever worried incessantly about being cheated on?

Ever worried about him checking out other women?

As a woman, you are wired to worry when you are in a fearful state.

But as a woman, you also have a lot more power with men than you have been lead to believe.

You have the power with men more than you know right now, even as you are reading this. And your knowledge of men is your power with them. This is the basis of my program “Understanding Men” (check it out by clicking here).

How Do You Know What A Guy Is Thinking?

Differentiate between these TWO important things: try to differentiate between your feelings and your perception.

Your feelings make you perceive guys behaviour a certain way, because your feelings cloud your perception.

Your feelings about men aren’t wrong…but your perception of men is.

Let me make this clear:

Your feelings in response to men are not wrong.

They are your feelings, and they are here to help you.

As a woman, you know that your feelings are the truest and most real thing in your life.

After all, as women, we have feelings about everything!

The thing is, you have to remember that they are your feelings.

Do you know what that means?

It means they are not a man’s feelings.

Which means that the man you are dealing with doesn’t do the things he does for the reasons you think he does.

When Men “Look” At Other Women…

I’ll give you a little example of how men don’t do the things they do for the reasons we think they do it.

The other day I was driving to the mall, and I stopped at a red light.

While waiting for the lights to change, I looked to my right to see…two men in a car, staring at something to my left. And they were very concentrated on this particular thing.

I turned to follow their gaze, and saw a man in a car to my left, also staring intently at this as-yet-unknown thing.

Two seconds later, I see two young women in bikinis washing cars. lol.

Now… because I understand men, I can laugh at this and not just roll my eyes in fear and anger.

But I have a question for you: What is your instinctive, gut-level reaction to this?

Do you sigh in disgust?

Would you worry that your boyfriend or husband might look at those bikini clad girls too, if he was in the car with you?

The answer to all these fears is a resounding “No.”

Understanding Men Tip: Men Are Wired To Observe & Take In Information Objectively

See, it took me a while to get this. Men are conditioned as hunters (and also just as humans) to take note of changes in their environment.

It’s very important for any man to be knowledgeable and aware of his environment.

After all, his knowledge (and his ability to retain that knowledge are a part of what makes him valuable as a man!)

So to them, the bikini clad girls are actually like, “Oh. Gee, that’s novel. There’s a bikini car wash in Melbourne, Australia? I’ve never seen that before! OK then!”

Lights change. Moving on now. Minutes to half an hour later, most men will have forgotten all about that bikini car wash and the girls there.

They’re wired to observe and look.

They are the men who don’t feel that women desire them. they are the desperate men. They are the men who feel deprived.

The question is: Do you have a deprived man?

Do you have a desperate man? Do you have a man who treats every new attractive woman he sees as a sexual opportunity?

If so, your worries might be well-founded.

We are always obsessed with the things we perceive that we can’t have.

His life is lacking already, so any easy perceived opportunity means a lot to him. Does that make sense?

CLICK here to discover why you as a woman need to use the dark art of “High Value Banter” in order to quickly weed out the wrong types of men and create emotional attraction with the “BEST of MEN”! (…Even if no man has ever given you any love and all you’ve encountered so far are pen pals, ghosts, booty calls, and incredible duds!)

Don’t know what the dark feminine art of “High Value Banter” is? CLICK to find out.

Are You Attracting Desperate Men?

The worry really is: Why did you attract this particular man into your life?

If you have a man who always seems to be looking around for sexier women…then you have a legitimate concern.

What should you do?

Well, we need to first of all acknowledge that

Sometimes, some men are losers.

Other times, (more often than we’d like to admit), we are not taking enough responsibility in our relationship to give him the value that he wants.

Instead of offering value, we get stuck in worry, fear and blaming him.

We Must Consider Why We Attract The Type Of Man That We Attract

If you do have a man who is always sleazing around…why is he in your life?

The answer is possibly because you are desperate for something as well — maybe attention… maybe variety… maybe the (so-called) security of having just any man around.

Maybe you’ve felt your whole life that you’re undeserving of a high value man.

Or maybe somebody unfairly made you feel inferior to other women (which is never true).

So you feel deprived on some level that you don’t get enough attention, which is why the first man who seems to give attention to you, will do.

It’s not your fault. It’s just what you’re going through.

But once you become aware of this belief and relax into the reality that it doesn’t serve you, you can dismantle it.

Then you can start showing up in ways that better express your true worth — and attract better men.

Regarding the bikini car wash:

Would you be surprised if I told you that men would look with the same concentration at a row of 10 rabbits running across the road?

And that they’d look with the same level of detachment and lack of emotion?

If it does surprise you or make you angry, or you just don’t want to believe me, that’s OK.

That’s what we do as women.

We make things big in our minds, and we want to be reassured and convinced.

Now let’s take a look at how men think in relationships, and then talk about the 5 new insights on men that will ease your worries.

What Qualities Do Men Want In A Relationship?

They want a woman who is:

What A Man Needs From A Woman?

He needs everything that he cannot get by himself alone, or pay someone else to do for him. For instance, he cannot pay someone to care for him, love him, accept him or believe in him.

Put another way, if a man can pay a woman to do something for him, then it’s probably not worth investing in a relationship for.

Contrary to popular belief, men don’t hate commitment – they hate committing to the wrong woman. Men actually love to commit to the right woman. And the right woman gives him the two crucial emotional experiences in a relationship:

Emotional attraction and emotional connection.

How To Understand Men: 5 Insights On Men To Ease Your Worries

Right now, I’m going to share those five insights about men you should know before worrying yourself sick.

Insight #1: Men Judge You Far Less Than You Think They Do.

Most of the time, it does not serve men to judge women.

It only serves a man to judge a woman when the woman is obviously showing up very low value (and he needs to deflect her from his life ASAP).

More often than not, men are not judging you.

Men don’t think of you the way other women might think of you. In fact, it has been proven by scientists that women have consistently higher levels of disgust than men.

I’ve long observed that men are overall less disgusted, turned off and therefore less judgemental than women. Women’s threshold for disgust is simply lower.

Yes, I do believe the fact that women are more easily disgusted than men ties into women being more judgemental.

And other women can be harsh with their judgements of other women, because of competition.

Women sometimes need to look at the flaws or inadequacies of other women.

They do this so that they can alert themselves, and the men in their lives, of the imperfections of other women: their competition.

Women then use this information to denigrate their rivals and avoid losing access to their man.

With women, the smaller she feels, the more she needs to be judgmental in order to keep threats at bay.

it Doesn’t Make Sense For Men To Judge Women

…Unless they already see her as low value.

Biologically it doesn’t make sense for men to engage in judgement of women, because if a man is really judgemental, then he will lose sexual access to women.

And sexual access to women isn’t always easy or available to most men (Women mostly call the shots when it comes to sex).

He’s more worried about impressing you.

And, he’s also probably already forgotten that silly thing you said, shortly after you said it.

Now, if you know me and my work at all, you know that I firmly believe there are very few absolute truths in life, and that everything is contextual.

So I want to clarify, and say that yes, some men will judge you – but most men won’t.

And you will feel that if you just pause, allow yourself to be attuned, and feel where he is at.

The men who actually spend time judging you and talking negatively about you are usually the world’s smallest men.

They are not the rule.

They are just jaded, emotionally closed, and perhaps fearful men who wouldn’t try to court you anyway, out of fear of rejection.

That wasn’t me judging men….that is just how it is.

From early on, masculine men spend their entire lives trying to gain skills.

They need skills in order to be enough to be worthy of a high-value, high-status woman’s attention.

In fact, I have three sons, and to my shock, my oldest son began impressing girls from the young age of….have a guess?

Just two years old!

How does a man’s mind work?

This is how a man’s mind works:

Be a superstar. Find women.

The end.

Yep. That’s about it. At least in the context of relationships, anyway.

Here’s a longer version of that:

If I want to be worthy enough to get a woman and keep her long-term, I have to prove myself, and earn respect by making enough money, being funny enough, strong enough, etc.

But it’s not the same for men.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent quite a considerable amount of time in your life trying to do things to get a man’s attention, when you could have worried a lot less, simply enjoyed yourself, and that would have done the job.

Because men don’t care about all the little details you think they do, or judge you for them.

As far as I can tell, men will much more likely just be indifferent to you than they will give a damn about judging you.

They may not even care about you because they’ve already met their one and only.

Insight #2: Men Don’t Leave You Because You Weren’t Good Enough

Men leave for many reasons, but mostly it comes down to how they feel when they are with you.

They usually leave because there was no good reason to stay with you.

Meaning, the relationship didn’t add enough value to their life that it was worth staying in.

Sometimes men leave because they felt bad enough about themselves around you enough times that it was time to call it quits.

For a committed relationship to be worth it to a man, it has to add value to his life.

And that means he needs to be with a woman who is emotionally free, who lets herself be high value, and whom he is emotionally attracted to.

(Physical attraction is never enough for a man to get into a committed relationship with a woman).

On the topic of getting a man to commit, did you know that there is one specific emotional trigger within every single man in this world that inspires him to WANT to commit to one woman, take care of her, worship her and only her? Check out this one specific emotional trigger here.

Insight #3: Men Don’t Actually Want You To Hold Everything In & Pretend Everything Is OK.

Most women, when they are initially dating a man in the first months or years, feel that they have to pretend nothing happened when something upsets them badly.

They want to hide these emotions from a man because they subconsciously believe that if he were to know how she really feels, then he would not love her or be with her anymore.

Truth is, yes, some men will leave you (or even abuse you) if you feel and express your emotions.

That’s the first sign you should leave him.

But most men would not leave you for feeling emotions.

In fact, it’s actually your ability to feel and embody your primary emotions that will allow him to relate to you.

You Don’t Have To “Act” Like A Cool Woman All The Time

So, if you are of the belief (unconsciously or consciously) that you you have to act cool and not feel around men, move on from this terrible belief, and do something silly — like actually expressing yourself!

Now, please. Do not treat this as an opportunity to simply unleash all your old resentment and hatred onto a man. This borders on abuse. And plenty of women abuse men every day with their bursts of toxic, pent up emotions.

Don’t take this overboard if you have only had one date with a man.

You need time to prove your value to each other before you can even think about unleashing “the crazy.”

But believe it or not, soon enough, if a man is masculine and you have attracted this masculine man into your life, he won’t mind you expressing yourself vulnerably and authentically in the moment.

In fact, he’ll mind your holding everything in!

Holding things in is not good if you want a commitment, and it’s not good if you want your man to be a better man.

If you would like to learn more about how to express yourself vulnerable and authentically, see my article on how to be vulnerable without being NEEDY.

Understanding Men Tip: It’s Not Attractive To Hold Back Your Responsiveness

…Or pretend you don’t feel anything.

It is also not attractive to pretend you don’t have intense feelings in response to him.

Holding emotions in, or withholding your responsiveness is like not letting yourself do a sh*t. You can only do it for so long until…it all bursts out in a horribly epic manner.

Yes, feelings work like this. You have feelings whether you like it or not – and holding them in all the time is disrespecting yourself.

Sometimes, unleashing your feelings is inevitable (because you can’t keep a sh*t from 2 weeks ago inside permanently).

And unfortunately, you have to go through that stage in order to become more responsive in real time and calibrated in your relationship.

I just dearly hope that your man is not on the receiving end of a vile outburst that carries resentment or emotions from 5, 10 or 20 years ago (that may not even be about him!)

Your responsiveness is actually one of the things that men find most attractive about you, among other things…

What Do Men Find Most Attractive In A Woman?

Insight #4: When Your Man Doesn’t Do What You Want, It’s Because He Doesn’t Understand You Need It.

You may think this means I’m putting the blame on you.

No, not at all. In fact, when I discovered this, it felt like a gift, a well-kept secret, and a reason not to worry.

When I discovered this, to me it felt like: Thank God, maybe many men actually do want to be there for you? They want to be your hero? And this is not just your boyfriend, but even male friends and relatives, too!

What a novel concept that other women could never tell you!

Men respond most to primary emotion. Ie: men respond to raw emotion and vulnerability.

If there’s something that you need so much that is makes you cry genuinely, then he will be more likely to get what you need for you.

By the way, this is how I got one of my clients to get her man to marry her! I taught her to say these 3 simple words and he married her in 7 days. I am not even joking. Join in on this class my husband and I taught to hear how she did it.

Raw emotion works. You’re best to speak his language if you care. Raw emotion speaks to him the most.

The only catch: Men don’t want to be there for an unresponsive woman!

Women who don’t reward them with their responsiveness or feminine energy.

Just beware: The longer that you have withheld your responsiveness or gratitude…the longer you have withheld your happiness and loving energy from a man, the longer the path you will have to regain his trust.

Insight Number #5: Men Wish YOU Understood Them Deeply.

When you put your focus on understanding men, then it becomes easy for you to become a high value woman.

Not only that, when you learn how to understand men, you also stop worrying.

Understanding men means that you can have the freedom to stop feeling, or getting hurt and upset all the time.

When you’re hurt and upset all the time, you can’t be present and your feminine energy doesn’t show up. You’re tight and controlling. And that is not pleasant from a man’s perspective — or anyone’s perspective, especially your own.

And look: When you understand men, men find it easier to give you what you need, and be the men you want them to be for you.

There is an incredible allure to women who understand men. Because these women are usually higher value, less defensive, and more radiant because of the lowered stress that comes from understanding men.

Men are drawn to this kind of allure like bees to honey, and they want to commit to you just to own that allure — to own your soul for life.

By the way here’s a top article my husband wrote for you on 5 Things Every Woman Ought to Know About Men.

Understanding Men Is More Powerful Than Makeup & A Slimmer Body

The key to getting that genuine commitment from a high-caliber man is not make-up. It is not a slimmer body.

These are the feminine brain’s solution! What men care about is a woman’s energy.

Remember that! Open your eyes… and take a look around at all the attractive, successful men committed to far less attractive, perhaps jobless, and perhaps very overweight women!

The key to men is actually understanding men.

You see, men who are masculine at their core (about 80 percent of the males in the world, according to various researchers) often don’t have many words.

Especially when it comes to their feelings.

They don’t talk all that much about how they feel, and many don’t even understand what that word means in many contexts. which is like a foreign planet for you and I!

We get feelings, and we can speak about them well. But when you try to talk to a man about them, he might just go quiet or look blankly back at you.

What Can I Do Now?

You can’t turn him into a woman, so the very best thing you can do is to put the love, thought and care into learning about understanding men.

The more you are willing to do this, the more that men will approach you for the right reasons (not for sex), and the quicker relationships will start to fall into place for you.

Now I want to make you an offer. I want you to experience the freedom, self-confidence and joy that I have through understanding men.

So here’s what I’ve done: I’ve created a course on this very subject with my husband. It’s designed for you to become the goddess you were destined to be with men, and it will eliminate your anxiety, confusion and mistakes with any man.

I invite you to join me and my other members in the exclusive Members Area, where you can start Understanding Men. Click here to read more about this popular program:

Frequently Asked Questions On How To Understand Men

How Do Men Think When They Are In Love?

When a man is in love, he cannot stop thinking about you.

However, from another point of view, it’s possible that they probably aren’t actually thinking a whole lot, at least not when you look at it from the perspective of the woman they are in love with.

This is because when a man is in love, his brain is hijacked and he is overcome with an overwhelming desire to be with the woman emotionally and physically.

How Do Men Understand Dating?

Men essentially put women into two different categories.

You’re either in their ‘one and only’ basket (in which case, no other woman could ever compare, because you’ve already formed that pair bond with him).

Or, you’re in the one of many basket.

And if you’re his one of many woman, then he wouldn’t compare you to other women anyway.

This is because being the one of many woman means that in his mind, you’re not better than any of the others.

You’re just one of 100 cupcakes on offer. Thus, you’re just like a different flavour of cupcake icing….

Not better, not worse…

Just different.

That’s how men think about a woman who is in their one of many basket. Here are 6 Signs He Really Likes You.

How Does A Man In Love Behave?

He behaves like Noah behaved in the movie The Notebook – if he’s an emotionally healthy man.

A man in love will protect the woman he loves, feel what she feels, and provide everything he possibly can to make her feel safe, happy and loved.

Watch these scenes from the movie ‘The notebook’ for examples…

What Men Look For In A Woman Physically?

Every man has his own unique preferences. However, truth be told, there are some universal truths surrounding what men seek in a woman physically. Here are the things men look for that are universal:

Ultimately, the best thing you could aim for to be physically appealing to men, is to be at your absolute healthiest, because when you’re at your healthiest, that’s when everything else naturally falls into place.

True inner health is how your body aligns everything else to make you show up as a physically attractive woman.

What Do Men Want In A Woman?

The bottom line is the men want a woman of value (to men). If a man is going to invest in a woman, then she better exhibit the 3 traits of what makes a high value woman.

Men want women who exhibit the following:

Why Do Guys Push You Away When They Like You?

Sometimes they push you away because they know they cannot give you the investment you need in order to be happy in a relationship.

Other times, they push you away because they are afraid. Specifically, they are afraid of not being enough for you, or afraid that you will betray them.

Finally, you must also know that the reason why guys push you away when they like you may be an uncomfortable one: perhaps you’re not the right woman for him, or he doesn’t like you enough to commit.

Usually, if you present with high value, it’s much more likely that a guy will not push you away, but rather, not be able to keep away from you.

It’s when you suck value from him (show up low value) that most men will run the other way.

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Why Do Guys Distance Themselves From A Girl They Like?

Because women need a lot from guys that they may not feel ready to give. Other reasons guys distance themselves could be because:

The other not often discussed reason why guys distance themselves form a girl they like is because perhaps they don’t like her enough. If his emotional feelings for her were intense enough, you would literally not be able to push him away.

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Sport

Maria: Rory, do you like sport?

Rory: Um, I suppose, not particularly when it comes to mainstream sports, I’ll watch the odd football match in the passing and I keep up with some news back home, but I wouldn’t say I was a huge sports fan or anything.

Maria: Do you like extreme sports?

Rory: Ok, well, that’s the one that tickles my fancy. I love extreme sports. I’ve been bungee jumping and the second the coronavirus restrictions go, I’ll be shooting and I want to go glider flying and skydiving and zorbing. I think they’re great ideas.

Maria: Do most people in your country like sport?

Rory: I think so. I mean, Britain is kind of renowned as a football and rugby obsessed nation. So it certainly seems this way.

Maria: What sports do people in your country play?

Rory: Well, like I said, I think football and rugby are, sort of, the mainstay sports just going by the TV coverage. But a lot of people also play golf, including my aunt and uncle. And in fact, I think golf was invented in Scotland. And of course, I think. Well, diving gets a lot of attention because there’s like famous divers like Tom Daley they’re. Well, quite well known, I guess.

Maria: What was your favorite sport when you were a child?

Rory: Oh, I loved swimming. That was the one I liked the most. I used to go every week before breaking for the weekend. That was great fun. I’m not so sure it was great fun for my parents used to transport me there, but I enjoyed it.

Maria: Did you do much sport when you were younger?

Rory: Well, aside from swimming, not really. I was actually more of a bookworm, to be honest with you, and I probably still am. I do more now, I guess. If you consider going to the gym and playing video games as sports, which some people do.

Maria: What are the benefits of doing sport?

Rory: Well, I think the health benefits are certainly the most obvious. So, for example, if you go and run around for a period. I think you’re meant to have 30 minutes of intense exercise, so doing contact sports like football or rugby would count as that. So they’re the most obvious. But there are social benefits to it as well, because you meet new people at football clubs, for example, or if you do martial arts, then you could meet people at your local jujitsu club. What’s it called? A dojo? That’s what it is. And, you can network there. If you’re not there to make friends, then you could network. And if you have a business that you’re particularly fond of and want to meet new people like that, for example.

Maria: Do you like to watch sports on TV?

Rory: Well, like I said, I’ll have a glance in the passing, but I wouldn’t spend a great deal of time on it. I don’t have. Sorry, I have a lot on my plate right now, so there’s not really a great deal of time to just sit and stare at the screen all the time. Maybe when I’m older I’ll probably do it more often. You tend to see that in places where people hang out. Back home, there’s lots of older men who go to the pub and watch football, for example. So maybe that’s the destiny I have to look forward to.

Maria: What kinds of sports would you like to try in the future?

Rory: Well, like I said, all of the extreme sports! I’m particularly looking forward to going skydiving and flying a glider, I think that will be really good fun. But there’s not really anything normal. I think the closest thing is probably taking up jujitsu again, I think I’d really like to start that over.

Maria: Who’s your favorite sports star?

О красоте на английском языке (B1-B2 диалог)

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О красоте на английском языке (B1-B2 диалог)

(1) What is beauty? — Что такое красота?

Beauty is something that makes our world wonderful. The beauty of nature. The beauty of music and arts. The beauty of people and so on.

(2) Who decides who or what is beautiful? — Кто решает кто или что красиво?

Each person decides it for himself. What is beautiful for some people, can be not beautiful for others.

(3) How often do you think about beauty? — Как часто вы думаете о красоте?

Pretty often. Beauty is important for almost everything.

(4) Do you think you have the same concept of beauty as your friends? — Вы думаете, что у вас такое же представление о красоте, как у ваших друзей?

As I said, beauty is a relative thing for everyone. So I am sure I have different concepts of beauty with my friends.

(5) What are the most important features when determining someone’s beauty? — Какие особенности наиболее важны при определении чьей-либо красоты?

Speaking of women, I think that most men like slim girls with long hair, big eyes and good shape. But the features can be different for everyone of course. Everyone to his own taste.

(6) How would the world be different if we never considered beauty? — Каким был бы мир, если бы мы никогда не думали о красоте?

I think people can’t live without considering beauty around them. It suppose the world be ugly I suppose.

(7) Is beauty in design important in your culture? — Важна ли красота в дизайне для вашей культуры?

Yes, it’s pretty much important now and trendy. People like beautiful things in design: beautiful houses, furniture, clothes and so on.

(8) Do you think we are conditioned by advertising to think what is beautiful and what is not? — Вы думаете, что реклама заставляет нас думать, что красиво, а что нет?

I think we are, but it doesn’t mean that everything that is beautiful in advertising is good.

(9) What do you think of beauty contests? — Что вы думаете о конкурсах красоты?

I don’t like them. I think people pay too much attention to someone’s beauty nowadays.

(10) What does «beauty is in the eye of the beholder» mean? Do you agree? — Что означает «красота в глазах смотрящего»? Вы согласны?

A saying is «Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,» means beauty doesn’t exist on its own but is created by observers. I agree with it. What is beautiful for one man, can be ugly for others.

Rinat —-> Anya

(1) Do you think the idea of beauty is changing? How? — Как вы думаете, меняется ли представление о красоте? Как?

I don’t think that it’s changing too much. Fashion is changing, but the idea of beauty is not.

(2) Do you think different races have different perceptions of what beauty is? — Как вы думаете, разные расы по-разному воспринимают красоту?

Absolutely. Not only races, different people have different perceptions of what beauty is.

(3) Is beauty important? — Красота важна?

It depends on circumstances. If it is a beauty contest for example, it’s important of course.

(4) Is there beauty in everything we see and do? — Есть ли красота во всем, что мы видим и делаем?

To some extent yes there is. World and life are wonderful. There is beauty in everything.

(5) Do you think about your beauty? — Вы думаете о своей красоте?

Yes of course. I am a girl!

(6) Do you think the beauty industry is important? — Как вы думаете, индустрия красоты важна?

People like it. I can’t say that this is the most important industry, but anyway it’s important.

(7) Do beautiful people have better lives? — У красивых людей жизнь лучше?

That’s a hard question. To be honest, I don’t think so.

(9) What beauty can you see around you now? — Какую красоту вы видите вокруг себя сейчас?

That’s my home. Everything is beautiful here.

(10) Do you see beauty in the English language? — Вы видите красоту в английском языке?

It sounds nice, I like this language.

Anyway, language is just a tool. What we do with it depends on us.

— Part 2
Describe a crop you familiar with
You should say:
what crop it is
when and where it is grown
what you like or dislike about it
and explain why this is important for your country.

— Part 2
Describe a traditional product in your country.
You should say:
what the product is
when you tried this product for the first time
what it is made of
and explain how you feel about it.

— Part 3
What are the traditional products in your country?
Why are traditional products important?
Do you think tradition is important for a country?
Why is it important for children to learn about traditional products?

— Part 2
Describe an important river/lake in your country.
You should say:
where it is located
how big/long it is
what it looks like
and explain why it is important.

— Part 3
Do you think rivers/lakes attract tourists?
How can rivers/lakes benefit local people?
Are rivers/lakes suitable for transport? Why?
How do rivers/lakes affect local tourism?

— Part 2
Describe a positive change that you made in your life.
You should say:
what it is
why you did it
who you did it with
and explain how you feel about the change.

— Part 3
What are the disadvantages when people keep making changes?
Is it easier for young people to change?
Is it easy for older people to change?
How can people change their daily routine if they want to?

— Part 2
Describe something that surprised you.
You should say:
what it is
how you found out about it
what you did
and explain whether it made you happy.

— Part 3
How can people be happy?
How do people express happiness in your culture?
Do you think happiness has any effect on people? How?
Is it good for people to be unhappy? Why?

— Part 2
Describe an invention that has positively changed the world.

You should say:
what it is
what benefits it has brought
how it influences people of different ages
and explain how you feel about it.

— Part 3
What household appliances make people lazy?
What is the most helpful innovation at home?
What kind of invention can be used at school?
Do you think artificial intelligence will replace human teachers? Why?

— Part 2
Describe something you do that can help you concentrate on work/study.
You should say:
what it is
how it helps you concentrate
when you do it
and explain how you feel about it.

— Part 3
Do you think technology will harm children’s ability to concentrate?
Why is it more difficult for children to concentrate nowadays than in the past?
What kinds of jobs require high concentration at work?
Can exercise help people improve concentration?

— Part 2
Describe an occasion that you lost something.
You should say:
what you lost
when and where you lost it
what you did to find it
and explain how you felt about it.

— Part 3
What do people often do when losing things?
What kinds of things do people usually lose?
Is it an effective way to use rewards to find lost things?
What kinds of people may lose things often?

— Part 2
Describe an important event you celebrated.
You should say:
what it was
where it happened
why it was important
how people felt about it.

— Part 3
What kinds of events do people usually celebrate?
Do you like to celebrate important events? Why?
Do people often celebrate events with a large group of people or just a few people?
Do people often celebrate festivals with families?

— Part 2
Describe an interesting neighbor.
You should say:
who this person is
how you know this person
what he or she does
and explain why you think this person is intelligent.

— Part 2
Describe a contest you would like to participate in.
You should say:
what the contest is about
where the contest will take place
when it will be held
and explain why you would like to participate in it.

— Part 2
Describe a time when you were caught in a traffic jam.
You should say:
when it happened
where it happened
how you passed the time while waiting
and explain how you felt when you were in that traffic jam.

— Part 2
Describe an electronic machine you want to buy
You should say:
what it is
how you know about this machine
what specific features you want from it
and explain why you want to buy this machine.

— Part 2
Describe a popular/well-known person in your country.
You should say:
who this person is
what he/she has done
why he/she is popular
and explain how you feel about this person.

— Part 3
What kinds of people are popular at work?
Are bosses more popular than employees at work?
Which one is more important, keeping a good relationship with colleagues or doing well at work?
What are the benefits for a child to be popular at school?

— Part 2
Describe a time you helped a child.
You should say:
when it was
how you helped him/her
why you help him/her
and how you felt about it.

— Part 3
Do people often help kids? How?
Why is it necessary to do volunteer services?
What can schools do to develop students’ awareness of volunteering?
Who benefits more from the volunteer services: the volunteers or the people who got help?

— Part 2
Describe a special day out that cost you little money/did not cost you much.
You should say:
when the day was
where you went
how much you spend
and explain how you felt about the day.

— Part 3
Do people like to spend their leisure time out in your country?
How do people spend their leisure time in your country?
How does technology affect the way people spend their leisure time?
Do you think only old people have time for leisure?

— Part 2
Being busy

— Part 2
A healthy activity

— Part 2
A quiet place

— Part 2
A day out that didn’t cost a lot

— Part 2
Something you do to save time

— Part 2
A family member you want to work with

— Part 2
A hard decision

— Part 2
Advice you got about work

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— Part 2
Describe a rule that you do not like.
You should say:
what it is
why you do not like it
how others feel about the rule
and explain whether you have followed the rule.

— Part 3
What are the rules students should follow at school?
Are the rules at school good or bad? Why?
What can teachers do to make students obey the rules?
Should students be involved in making school rules?
What rules are there in the workplace?
What rules should children follow at home?
What rules do families usually have?
Why do some people refuse to follow the rules?
How are people punished when they park their car in the wrong place?

— Part 2
Describe a time you visited a new place.
You should say:
where it is
when you went there
why you went there
and explain how you feel about the place.

— Part 3
Which one do you prefer, living in a city or only visiting it as a tourist?
How do children react when they go to a new school for the first time?
How do young and older adults react differently to new things?
Why do some people want to go to college away from home?

— Part 2
Describe a story you remember someone told you.
You should say:
what the story was about
who told you this story
why you remember it
and how you feel about it.

— Part 3
Why do children like stories?
What kind of stories do children like?
What can a child learn from a story?
Do young children like the same stories as older children?
How do people tell stories to children?
How has technology changed storytelling?

— Part 2
Describe a gift you would like to buy for your friend.
You should say:
what gift you would like to buy
who you would like to give it to
why you would like to buy a gift for your friend
and explain why you choose that gift.

— Part 3
When do people usually send gifts to others?
Do people give gifts at traditional festivals?
Is it hard to choose a gift?
Is the price of a gift important?
Will people feel happy when receiving an expensive gift?
Is it better to give practical gifts?
Is gift-giving important to the economy of a country?
Why do companies give free gifts to people?
Is it better to give something which is self-made or smth bought in stores?

— Part 2
Describe a course that impressed you
You should say:
what the course was about
where you took the course
what you learn from this course
and explain why it impressed you a lot.

— Part 3
Remembering things
What do you think of people who use calendars to remind them of things?
What kinds of people are more forgetful?
Do people like things of memorial significance?
Which is better for keeping childhood memories: photos or videos?
Do you think that keeping a diary can lead to creating false memories?
Why do people remember very little about things which happen to them in early childhood?
What childhood memories do people usually have?
Can technology help people remember past events?

— Part 2
Describe a long walk you ever had.
You should say:
When this happened
Where you walked
Who you were with
And explain how you felt about this walk

— Part 3
What outdoor activities do people like?
What are the differences between the outdoor activities children did in the past and now?
Is leisure important to everyone? why?
Do women have more leisure than men?

— Part 2
Describe a special cake you received from others (OR a special cake you liked)
You should say:
When it happened
Where it happened
Who you got the cake from
And explain why it was special

— Part 3
Is there any food in your country eaten at special times or on special occasions?
What are the differences between special food in your country and other countries?
Why are some people willing to spend a lot of money on meals on special days?
Is it important to have a meal together with your family?
Do you think it’s good to communicate when eating with your family?
Do people care about where products are from?
Are people fully responsible for what they eat?
Is it important for people to learn about foreign foods?

— Part 2
Describe a city that you think is very interesting.
You should say:
where it is
what the city is famous for
why it is interesting
and explain how you feel about it.

— Part 3
Why do some young people like to live in cities?
Do most older adults live in the city or the countryside?
Is it good for the elderly to live in cities?
Do you think young people who live in the country want to move to a city?
Do you think well-developed tourism will have negative effects on local people/communities?
What advantages can tourism bring to a city?

— Part 2
Describe an interesting song.
You should say:
what the song is
what story does the song tell
whether the music is popular
and explain why you think it is interesting.

— Part 3
What kinds of music do young people like?
What kinds of music is popular in your country?
What kinds of people like traditional music?
Why are some music competitions popular in your country?
What are the differences between live concerts and online concerts?
Why do people spend a lot of money on concerts?
Are music concerts suitable for older people?
Why do some people prefer to listen to live music and others listen to CDs?

— Part 2
Describe a person you follow on social media
You should say
Who he or she is
How do you know him/her
What she/he posts on social media
And explain why you follow him/her on social media

— Part 3
What do people do on social media?
What are the benefits and drawbacks of social media?
What kinds of thing are popular on social media?
What social networking websites are popular?

— Part 2
Describe an item of clothing that someone gave you.
You should say:
what the clothing was
who gave it to you
when you got it
and explain why this person gave you the clothing.

— Part 3
Have you ever given clothes to others?
Why do people dress casually in everyday life but dress formally at work?
What are the advantages and disadvantages of wearing uniforms at work and school?
Why do people in different countries dress differently?

— Part 2
Describe a thing you did to learn another language.
You should say:
what language you learned
what you did
how it helped you learn the language
and how you felt about it.

— Part 3
What are the difficulties of learning a new language?
What difficulties do people face when learning a language?
Do you think language learning is important? Why?
What’s the best way to learn a language?
What can people do to learn a language?
Which is better, to study alone or to study in a group? Why?
Is making foreign friends the best way to learn a language?
Is travelling a good idea?

— Part 2
Describe a place in the countryside that you visited.
You should say:
where it is
when you visited this place
what you did there
and explain how you feel about this place

— Part 3
Do you think more people will live in the countryside in the future?
Is it possible that all the population will move to the cities?
Is there anything special about the countryside in your country?
Why do people like to go to the countryside?
What do people usually do when going to the countryside?
Do you think young people who live in the country want to move to a city?

— Part 2
Describe a skill that was hard to learn ( a skill you leant from older people)
You should say:
what skill it was
why you had to learn it
how you did it
and explain why it was hard for you

— Part 3
At what age is it hard for people to master new skills?
Is it hard for old people to learn new skills? why?
What’s the difference between the ways children and adults learn things?

— Part 2
Describe a person who contributes to the society.
You should say:
Who this person is
How you knew him/her
What type of work he/she does
And explain why you think he/she contributes to the society

— Part 3
Do people nowadays help others more than in the past?
Who should teach children to help others? Parents or teachers?
In what kind of professions do people help others more?
Why are some people willing to help others?

— Part 2
Describe an interesting conversation you had with your friend.
You should say:
Who you spoke with
Where you were
What the conversation was about
And explain why you think it was interesting

— Part 3
How do friends communicate with each other?
What’s the difference between having a conversation with a man and having a conversation with a woman?
Do you think women like to chat more than men?
When men chat with other men do they usually talk about the same things that women do when they chat with other women?
What is the difference between chatting and gossiping?
Who do you prefer chatting with – your parents or your friends?
Do most people have just a small number of friends, or many friends?
How do most people make new friends in your country?

— Part 2
Describe an ambition you have not yet achieved
You should say:
what your ambition is
when you first had this ambition
how you plan to achieve it
and explain why you have not achieved it yet

— Part 3
What ambitions do people usually have?
What do people usually feel when they can’t achieve their goals?
How do people balance life and work?

— Part 2
Describe a toy you liked in your childhood
You should say
What the toy was
Who gave it to you
How you used this
and explain how you felt when you got this toy

— Part 3
Do you think that advertising that targets children should be banned?
How do ads influence children?
What toys are popular with boys and girls in your country now?
How do companies make children buy their toys?
Do some parents spend too much money on toys?

— Part 2
Describe a person you met once and want to know more about.
You should say:
who this person is
when you met him/her
how you met him/her
and explain why you want to know more about this person.

— Part 3
How and where do people in your country make friends?
What places are popular for meeting friends in your country?
Is it important to have the same interests and hobbies when making friends?
Do people in your country like making new friends?
Do you think old friends are important to the old generation or to the young generation?
Which is more important: to keep old friendship or make new friends?

— Part 2
Describe something you cannot live without (not a computer/phone).
You should say:
what it is
what you do with it
how it helps you in your life
and explain why you can’t live without it.

— Part 3
Is keeping old things in a family a good way to connect with the past?
Which are better: good things or new ones?
Why are children attracted to new things (such as electronics)?
Why do some grown-ups hate to throw out old items (such as clothes)?
What makes people buy new things?
How do shops attract customers?
Has the way of shopping changed?

— Part 2
Describe something that was broken in your home and then repaired.
You should say:
what it is
how it was broken
how you got it repaired
and explain how you felt about it.

— Part 3
Are IT-related jobs valued more by society?
Is the quality of products worse than before?
What kinds of things do people like to repair by themselves?
Why do people like to get their mobile phones repaired in specialized stores?

— Part 2
Describe something you received for free.
You should say:
what it was
who you received it from
where you received it
and explain how you felt about it

— Part 3
Do you think people should pay for higher education? Why?
Is it good or bad for people to have a free education in the future?
What gifts/free things do companies usually give to their customers?
Why do companies give free things?
Why do customers like to receive gifts from companies?

— Part 2
Describe a house or an apartment you’d like to live in
Describe a house or an apartment you would like to live in.
You should say:
What it is like
Where it would be
Why you would like to live in this house/apartment
And how you feel about this house/apartment

— Part 3
Do people in your country buy or rent their houses?
Do most people in your country live in flats or houses?
What are the benefits of living in a house?
Is the design of a house important?

— Part 2
Describe someone you like to spend time with.
You should say:
who this person is
how you know this person
what you usually do together
and explain why you like to spend time with this person.

— Part 3
Leisure
Who has more leisure/free time: men or women?
Do people have more free time now than in the past?
What’s the difference in the way people spend their free time now and 20-30 years ago?
What do people in your country do in their spare time?
Is leisure time important for everyone?
What types of outdoor activities are popular in your country?
Do people have time for themselves nowadays?
What kinds of people are easy to get along with?
How do leaders get along with their subordinates?

— Part 2
Describe a happy event you organized.
You should say:
what the event was
when you had it
who helped you to organize it
and explain how you feel about it.

— Part 3
Organising things
How can parents help children to become organized?
What factors should people consider while organising events?
On what occasions are people organized?
What are the occasions people have parties for?
What public events are celebrated in your area, and what do you think about them?