Do what you fear and fear disappears

5 вдохновляющих цитат о страхе на английском языке

А вы боитесь чего-нибудь? Мы уверены, в душе каждого человека живут какие-то фобии. Кто-то боится пауков, кто-то — темноты, а некоторые наши читатели — изучения английского языка. Хэллоуин — самое подходящее время для того, чтобы посмотреть в глаза своим страхам. Давайте посмотрим, что говорят известные личности о наших фобиях. Можно ли и нужно ли от них избавляться?

Where there is no imagination there is no horror.

Ничего не боится только человек без воображения.

Артур Конан Дойл

Как правило, до 90% наших опасений никогда не претворяются в жизнь. В большинстве случаев мы боимся совершенно напрасно, а страх ослепляет человека. Достигнуть успеха в изучении английского языка будет непросто, если вы постоянно будете предаваться размышлениям вроде: «А вдруг я буду говорить с ошибками, надо мной станут смеяться!» И вот уже богатое воображение рисует картину: вы на уроке английского языка, делаете какую-то ошибку, все тыкают в вас пальцем и заливаются смехом. Перечитайте еще раз последнее предложение: не кажется ли оно вам абсурдным? Может быть, у вас был подобный печальный опыт в школьные годы? Забудьте его, общество давно пришло к единому мнению: делать ошибки — это нормально, стремление к совершенству — занятие бесполезное. Рекомендуем ознакомиться со статьей «Учим английский язык. Советы для отчаявшихся новичков», из нее вы узнаете, как избавиться от надуманных страхов и вновь ступить на путь истинный.

Do what you fear and fear disappears.

Делай то, что боишься делать, и страх исчезнет.

Дэвид Джозеф Шварц

Помните старую русскую пословицу о терпении и труде, которые все могут перетереть-преодолеть? С любым страхом можно справиться только активными действиями. Чем дальше вы будете уходить в «раковину», тем меньше вероятность когда-нибудь справиться с ним. Один из самых «великих и ужасных» страхов любого человека, изучающего английский язык — боязнь говорить. Однако не так страшен английский, как его малюют студенты: говорить намного проще, чем кажется. Мы подробно рассказали, как избавиться от этой фобии, в статье «Как перебороть боязнь говорить на английском языке: простые советы». Ознакомьтесь со статьей, вы убедитесь, что быть «молчаливой собачкой» скучно и вредно, а научиться говорить довольно просто.

The dread of criticism is the death of genius.

Боязнь критики убивает гениальность.

Уильям Гилмор Симмс

Ох, как мы боимся критики! Это, пожалуй, самый главный страх любого человека. Мы часто задумываемся: а что о нас скажут, а правильно ли меня поймут, а вдруг я не то сделаю. Именно боязнь подвергнуться критике останавливает нас на полпути к успеху. Мы хотели бы заметить, что следует различать критиканство и критику. Первое — действительно ужасная вещь: вас необоснованно разносят «в пух и прах». Второе — уникальная возможность совершенствоваться. Некоторые студенты воспринимают каждое замечание или поправку преподавателя очень болезненно. На самом деле педагог хочет, чтобы вы говорили и писали грамотно, поэтому без обсуждения ошибок (которое часто воспринимается учеником как критика) нельзя достигнуть желанной цели — определенного уровня владения английским языком. Другое дело, когда окружающие, которые не учат английский, занимаются критиканством. В таком случае действительно стоит пропустить замечания мимо ушей. Не слушайте, когда вам говорят, что вы уже слишком взрослый/умный/занятой человек, чтобы тратить драгоценное время на обучение. Почитайте нашу статью «Никогда не поздно начать учить английский язык», вы увидите, что английскому все возрасты покорны.

The things that we fear are a weapon to be held against us.

Great work is done by people who are not afraid to be great.

Великие дела совершают те, кто не боится быть великим.

Думаем, некоторые читатели смущены. Разве английский язык такое уж великое дело? Неужели все, кто его учат, могут считать себя великими. Конечно, неуместно говорить об этом в прямом смысле. Однако мы можем допустить, что изучение английского для некоторых людей сродни подвигу: они находят время в плотном рабочем графике и не ищут отговорок в стиле «я такой занятой человек». Совершают такой подвиг те, кто отверг страхи и разрушил в своем воображении «8 мифов об изучении английского языка». Пусть английский язык и не «великое», но хорошее и полезное дело, а быть хорошим не так уж плохо.

Do what you fear and fear disappears

So much easier said than done, if only our little quote gave us all we would need. Unfortunately it takes a little more effort than just reading or understanding this sentence. We can’t place action into a sentence, we can only look at what we need and just move from that into action, fear or not. So in this post I am looking at a few deciding factors that can help us move past fear.

So how do we become a driving force into and through our fear? How do we find our ‘Dr Pepper’ attitude of…. “What’s the worst that could happen?”

Fear and worry are mostly an illusion. They are mind centred and created from an imagination; that the risk could be too much. This is why many famous sports men and women use ‘visualisation techniques’ to overcome their fear. Should they indulge their negative imaginations they could become ‘frozen’ with fear. Not good on a football pitch — also not good in our lives.

This leads me to procrastination; that level of distraction which always keeps us from our big ideas and leaves the things we really want to do hanging up in a ‘someday I’ll do it’ scenario. Procrastination is just a tool we use to avoid fear, it is better to recognise the fear and deal with that, than to chastise ourselves over the procrastination!

Our dreams can oftentimes remain hidden within our minds, sometimes people will never get to feel safe enough to share their true heart’s desires with those around them. Why? — Because they could get rejected, this is another element of fear. They could share these ideas with their friends, only to be laughed at and that’s it; discussion over! The sad thing about this type of situation is that if a friend or partner doesn’t recognise this as our first step into bringing our dream, idea or invention into the plains of reality, we’ll often end up locking it away again, back into the ‘dream realm’. Where it carries on living in our imagination, safe and not be killed by others negative perceptions or lack of belief in our own abilities. I hasten to add though, that it may not be our abilities here, that are lacking, perhaps this companion’s faith and vision in others just isn’t there, at that moment in time.

We don’t however need to rely on anyone else’s opinion. But I do believe that good positive encouragement and support are actually the ‘birth partners’ to our dreams. The option here for anyone is to look further afield to get the encouragement they need, rather than just look to those in their immediate vicinity. That’s the first action towards moving past fear, people need support and if they don’t already have it, they should find it.

Being able to bounce ideas off someone in reality, rather than just hold it in our own minds, gives creative force to our dreams. Using positive imagery, along with that all important action, is the creation process people need to help shape their future.

Action is the steam roller to fear. Too much caution in life will stop people from fulfilling their potential. At times we need to throw caution to the wind and set sail in a new direction.

I read somewhere recently that “love is the opposite of fear”; the notion was challenging the idea that ‘love is the opposite of hate’ and saying actually that it is fear, that is the opposite. I have come to the conclusion that I liked that idea, but perhaps rather — love is the solution to both fear and hate.Fear and hate are very similar to each other, so I can see where love comes in opposition to them, but I won’t get into that right now.

In essence I think we must really love our dreams enough to do them.

We must love ourselves enough to move out of fear.

We must care enough to ‘birth’ our dreams into reality.

And we need a loving environment to feel safe, to go ahead and do what we need to do, which of course will disperse any fear.

Developing a loving environment forgives any mistakes we may make, it moves past a failure; to treat it as a lesson and brings compassion into the creation of our ideas. This surely is the way forward, out of fear. When we are stuck in a pattern of fear, keeping our true talents and dreams trapped only in our imagination, we won’t be able to move into action, which is ultimately what we need to do. So perhaps finding love in the above noted forms will set us free; allowing anyone to move into action.

What I learned about overcoming fear watching my 3rd grader running for Student Council

Finding courage in life is a constant journey to happiness and fulfillment. Successful people learned to ask themselves what they would do if they weren’t afraid, and to escape the trap of excusitis. It’s hard work of reading, observing, practicing and self reflection. My 3rd grader taught me more than a book.

My two kids crystallized for me that there’s no point in comparing oneself to others. People describe my daughter as “bubbly and sassy”, and her older brother as “bright and deep”. During a Hawaiian vacation, my daughter, a kindergartner then, was eager to share the experience with her class. She was busy collecting rocks, leafs and postcards, despite that she couldn’t repeat half the vocabulary heard during the trip and had difficulties with articulation. Her older brother demonstrated much higher level of understanding and recollection, but refused to share in class, “I hate speaking in front of people.” Sure enough, the baby sister did a wonderful job sharing.

When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops.

One’s attitudes are more important than one’s intelligence.

Following a teacher’s advice, I signed up my boy for after school drama workshop when he was in 2nd grade. After practicing the lines for several weeks and gradually gaining confidence, he did well in the final play about American Presidents and the White House. It also led to a surprising discovery.

“Mom, Do you know there’s a tennis court, a swimming pool and a movie theater in the White House! Can I watch a movie there?”

“I’m not sure … but you know what, if you become the President, I’m sure you can.”

“I’ll just be the Vice-President instead, because he doesn’t have to do any work … I’ll need to run for Governor before President, and Mayor before Governor. I’ll start with running for Vice President of Student Council at the end of 3rd grade, then President in 4th grade.”

To get enthusiastic, learn more about the thing you are not enthusiastic about. Dig into it deeper, and you’ll develop enthusiasm.

Near the end of 3rd grade, I asked my boy if he was going to run for Student Council as planned. “No, I changed my mind. Max (not real name) in 4th grade is gonna run for Vice President. He is in the sports team. All boys in the team will vote for him. I won’t win.” He had a point. The teacher suggested he could run for Treasurer instead, since he is known to be good at math.

Avoid the costly mistake of waiting until conditions are perfect before you act. Meet problems and obstacles as they arise.

My boy agonized about the decision for a few days, until the lunch meeting mandate for all candidates. He was in a much better mood after submitting the application.

Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, on the other hand, fertilize fear.

After declaring his candidacy, all he would talk about was how he could win. “Amy (not real name) from 4th grade is the top candidate, but another girl in her class is also running and will divide girl vote. The boys in the lower grades are my friends. My sister can help with votes from lower grade girls…”

Make a list of reasons why you can do it.

We made the baby sister in charge of getting more votes from girls. She came up with creative ideas for designing the posters, and did more work on them than her brother. She talked to all her friends about the election.

People do more for you when you make them feel important.

The school let each candidate pick their own spot in the outdoor hallway for their posters. The day the posters were out, I had no idea until I walked to the turn of the hallway and saw a poster right in front of my eyes. What a strategic spot for the poster, I thought.

I couldn’t find one of my son’s posters until on my way out. Like everyone else I had to stop at the gate to open the childproof lock. My son’s primary poster was on the back of the gate, inches from my nose.

My boy said the teacher let each candidate carry their posters to the spot of their choosing after lunch. He had picked this spot in mind and ran as fast as he could to reach there first. His words painted a vivid picture of the kids “running” for Student Council, highly motivated.

Adopt the principle of the “next mile”. We don’t make one big jump to success. We get there one step at a time.

Making posters and strategizing the spot for display might have been up my son’s alley, the speech in front of the WHOLE school is a different story. He tenses up when multiple pairs of eyes are on him. I reminded him of his good performance in the drama play. He said, “But we had practiced three months for it!”

Then he came up with two proposals of what he would do after getting elected which he believed all students would love, and he wanted to share them.

Successful public speakers have one thing in common: They have something to say and they feel a burning desire for other people to hear it.

The school wide voting happened at lunch time following the speeches on a Friday. I received a phone call from the teacher in the afternoon. “B did a great job giving the speech. We know he put lots of effort into the posters. We are so proud of him. It was a really close race.” I sensed the heaviness in his voice. “Unfortunately he didn’t win. We will let the candidates know the winner of their own position today after we spoke with their parents. The result will be announced publicly next week.”

I was grateful that the teachers had designed a thoughtful election process for the young candidates. Still I was nervous when picking up my boy later that day. He didn’t appear upset and was calm on the ride home. When he was about to get out of the car after we arrived, he said,

“Mom, can I tell you something that sucks but was true?”

“Oh, do you know who did?”

“Kevin (not real name) did.”

Wow, I didn’t anticipate my boy losing his “first campaign” to his best friend in class! Being used to be the smartest kid in class and only aimed to compete with higher grade opponents, what had gone through his mind after the news?

“It’s okay. I’m better at math, but Kevin is handsome and popular.”

This was about the longest remark my boy had made when asked about his feelings. He must have thought about the loss seriously and made peace.

Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.

“My dear, have the courage to face your faults.” — Teacher of Opera star Rise Stevens

“Did Kevin and you talk after finding out the result? Did you congratulate him?”

“Yes, I did. We agreed that one of us is gonna run for President and the other for Vice President next year. So we will both win. No one can beat us.”

I felt it was one of the proudest moments of my parenthood.

How you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win.

All confidence is acquired, developed. Concentrate on the good part of the experience; forget the bad. Bury it.

It was disappointing to lose after working hard and his friendship with his best friend was put through unexpected test. Would I want him to do it again if I had known? I believe so. The journey and learning are worth it.

Success doesn’t demand a price. Every step forward pays a dividend.

It’s rewarding to see my boy getting out of his comfort zone, diving wholeheartedly into something he had feared, and handling the outcome positively. I have no idea what he will grow up to be. My only wish is for him to reach his full potential, experience life and not be somebody who is afraid of living his dreams.

You can easily spot these people because they go to great length to rationalize their status and explain how “happy” they really are. They are like the youngster who feels he can’t make As in school or make the football team, so he pretends he doesn’t want to make As or play football. They aren’t satisfied because deep down they know they have surrendered.

The school hosted a Thank You Breakfast for all Student Council members and candidates the following week. Unsure if my boy would like to attend after losing the election, I asked him casually. “Sure, I’ll go.” No hesitation in his voice this time.

Do what you fear, and fear disappears. Just try it and see.

(P.S. — These quotes are from The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz. Take them to heart. They will help you on your own journey to overcome fear.)

I hope you feel encouraged by the story as much as I did, and had fun reading it!

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Each Enneagram Type’s Biggest Fear and What to Do About It

I don’t like to be scared. Being frightened isn’t my thing, but living a life of fear? Well, I keep signing up for that.

The truth is I worry a lot and live with a chronic case of low-grade anxiety. It wasn’t until I discovered the Enneagram, an ancient personality typing system designed to help people understand who they are and what makes them tick, that I understood what I feared deep in my core, how it drove my behavior and what spiritual disciplines could help me shed my worry.

If you have worries and fears in your life, find out your Enneagram type first then read this post. You’ll learn what you fear, why you fear it, how worry manifests itself in your everyday life and God-centered habits for shedding that fear.

Please know I’m not an Enneagram expert. What I present to you is based on my own research from books like The Road Back to You + The Sacred Enneagram, websites like The Enneagram Institute and Your Enneagram Coach, feedback from fellow worriers and peer review from people of each type.

Type 1: The Improver

What Type 1s Fear: Your underlying fear is imperfection. You fear being accused, misinterpreted, corrected, blamed and not meeting expectations. It worries you if your physical space is messy, if expectations are unclear and if there’s a lack of quality in any area. Deep down, you want to be good and balanced.

Why You Fear: Somewhere along the way you picked up the message that you must be better than you are. You’re an idealist at heart so you believe that anything that’s flawed can and should be fixed, including you.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: More than any other type, your inner critic won’t be quiet. You may become angry with yourself, others or an imperfect situation. Type 1s may grow resentful and exhausted because you’re trying to fix things and others don’t recognize or appreciate what you’re doing.

How to Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember you are loved exactly for who you are. God is absolutely crazy about you, and no condemnation is found in Christ!
2. Practice stillness. Stillness will help you loosen your grip on doing so you can be with God. This practice will help you let go of your addiction to making yourself better. Resting in stillness gives you permission to take a break from all of the inner frustration, exhaustion and resentment. It may feel impossible, but the freedom found in stillness will liberate your soul.
3. Play! It’s okay to not always be a responsible adult.

Type 2: The Helper

What Type 2s Fear: Your underlying fear is being unloved or unwanted by others. You fear relational tension, confrontation and disappointing others. Saying “no” to someone or being rejected are two things you absolutely hate. Deep down, you want to be loved.

Why You Fear: Type 2s often believe the lie that says you aren’t “enough” and that the only way to win love is to hide who you are, causing you to work to prove that you’re worthy of love and never share what’s going on inside. You may have picked up a message throughout your life that naming your needs could lead to rejection so you’d rather stay focused on the needs of others so everyone can stay happy.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you say “yes,” so boundary setting is hard for you. You may also find yourself unable to focus until any relational tension is resolved. Type 2s find the topic of “needs” a bit tricky: you may believe your needs don’t matter OR you may feel shame that you have needs OR you may become resentful that even when you recognize your needs, you don’t have anyone to share them with. You may also unknowingly manipulate others out of a desire to feel useful, loved and needed. As a Type 2, you may look for others to define who you are instead of allowing God to define that for you.

How to Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember you are so loved by God no matter how much or how little you serve or do today.
2. Practice solitude. When you practice being alone, you connect with what’s going on in your own heart and learn to rest in who you most fully are. You also understand it’s totally okay to be alone. Solitude can teach you how to be present with no string attached – no compulsion to do and no subconscious expectation for something in return.
3. Name one need you have and share it with a safe, trustworthy, God-centered person, like your spouse, best friend, pastor or counselor. As you feel comfortable and safe, share another need.

Type 3: The Achiever

What Type 3s Fear: Your underlying fear is not being valued. You fear underachieving and being unproductive and not making progress toward a goal. Deep down, you want to be valuable.

Why You Fear: Type 3s believe the lie that says you have value because of what you do and how much attention you receive. You fear anything that causes you to feel worthless, which might be as simple as not checking everything off the to-do list.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, two habits creep in:
1. You become hyper busy, doing anything and everything – even projects that don’t interest you that might bring you achievement and recognition. You’ve adapted your life to meet the expectations of others, which can be exhausting. You also spend time curating your image to look like you have it all together. While you are busy doing All The Things, you’re also willing to quit projects that you’re not good at because those “failures” hurt your image.
2. You stuff down your feelings to soldier on. You often say you’ll deal with your feelings later, but you never do.

How to Help Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember you are loved by God just for who you are, that God is crazy about you and made a talented and kind person when He made you.
2. Practice solitude. In the solitude, you’ll learn that you don’t have to prove your value or perform for God. Being alone in the presence of Christ will help you to trust that because God is near, grace is always available.
3. Spend time thinking about what you want and who Christ created you to be. This will free you from chasing after positions and opportunities that aren’t meant for you. It also gives you the chance to work on what He has called you to with all the enthusiasm you bring to every other aspect of your life.

Type 4: The Individualist

What Type 4s Fear: Your underlying fear is being abandoned by God and others because you really are “too much.” You fear being misunderstood, dismissed and stereotyped. Deep down, you want to be understood and loved for the individual you are.

Why You Fear: Type 4s feel like something is missing and there’s an underlying angst about what that could be. You may have heard the message from childhood that you didn’t really belong.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fears, Type 4s may feel like you feel too much, such as your frustration because of your idealism, angst about what could b, or envy about the deep and interesting inner lives of others. You may turn passive-aggressive or manipulative to sustain relationships. Type 4s may also feel shame as you compare yourself to others and declare yourself lacking.

How to Help Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember you are fully known and fully loved by God for who you are. God sees your heart and has tucked your identity in Him.
2. Practice solitude. Being alone will help you dial back your emotional energy. It will give you rest from your inner turmoil and a much-needed break from your compulsion to be seen.
3. Take a few minutes to express appreciation for what’s unique in those around you instead of focusing on what’s missing in your own self.

Type 5: The Investigator

What Type 5s Fear: Your underlying fear that you won’t be able to function successfully in the world. You fear being helpless, incapable, not having all the information and feeling out-of-control of your circumstances. Deep down, you want to be capable and competent.

Why You Fear: Type 5s often believe the lie that your worth is tied to your performance, specifically in having the right answers for every situation. This wrong belief may be rooted in negative messages heard from a parent or teacher, who said that you don’t have what it takes to be successful or that you aren’t good enough to warrant praise or love. (Written by Donya Dunlap)

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you withdraw from others so you can observe your environment and retreat into your own mind where you feel more capable. Emotionally, you withhold your energy, become angry at interruptions, and deflect your own needs. You may also analyze e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g.

How to Help Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember God is your shepherd so you always have everything you need. You lack nothing because Christ is in you.
2. Sit in silence. Being quiet brings clarity to your overactive mind, which is constantly on the prowl for solutions. The silence helps you let go of your compulsion of demanding answers and obsessively searching for more information.
3. Join a small group to practice connecting with others.

Type 6: The Loyalist

What Type 6s Fear: Your bottom line fear is that everything will go wrong. You fear trusting others and not having guidance or support. Deep down, you want security.

Why You Fear: Type 6s crave security, support and reassurance, therefore fear arises when these things are lacking. In the unpredictable and uncontrollable nature of life, your inner doomsday committee spins out worst case scenarios for you all day long. This committee makes you doubt yourself and fear picking the wrong next step. (Written by Kira Bridges)

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you worry a lot and tend to make a Plan A then Plans B-Z just in case. You often feel distracted as your brain works overtime to find solutions. Your type seeks control and can overthink situations.

How to Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember you are safe because there is nothing that can separate you from God’s love.
2. Practice silence. When you are literally silent (no podcasts, webinars, music allowed!), you’ll be able to hear God whisper how much He loves and cares for you. In silence, you’ll hear the truth about who you are and how God provides for you. It brings clarity to your hunt for assurance and quiets your churning thoughts.
3. Journal out your fears and worries and offer them to God. Your words will serve as a testimony to God’s faithfulness and love for you.

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Type 7: The Enthusiast

What Type 7s Fear: Your underlying fear is pain. You fear not having options, missing out on new experiences and people, not getting to do All The Things, getting trapped by routine when you want the freedom for fun and standing up for yourself and your needs. Deep down, you want to be content and happy.

Why You Fear: Somewhere along the way, you heard (or experienced) the message that you are on your own, that no one was available or willing to help you.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you’re constantly busy, which makes you tired. You’ll put up with the exhaustion that comes from doing All The Things because that seems more palatable to you than experiencing the pain and ache inside. You may also not follow through on commitments because you don’t want to be pinned down. However, at the other extreme, you may excessively plan to ensure there’s always a fun experience right around the corner.

How to Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember when God says He’ll take care of you, He means it. What is true is that you are not alone or on your own because you have a powerful God who loves you and thinks the world of you.
2. Practice silence. The silence gives you rest from the mental activity of thinking about the future. It offers a break from the pressure to keep moving forward and the compulsion to live distracted. Turn off the noise so you can hear God whisper His plans for you are good and He won’t let you miss any good thing.
3. Because you simultaneously don’t want to miss out AND you don’t like being pulled in too many directions, ask yourself this question, “If I only had one egg, which basket would it put it in?” This helps to focus your energy on the most important thing.

Type 8: The Challenger

What Type 8s Fear: Your underlying fear is being hurt or controlled. You fears betrayal, rejection, vulnerability, clingy people, sharing your needs and connecting with others. Deep down, you want the relational confidence that you can trust and be trusted.

Why You Fear: Type 8s often believe the lie that you are what you do. Somewhere along the way, you picked up the message that the world is a tough place where only the strong survive. You decided to be one of those survivors so you fear anything that prevents you from being in charge.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you push your body to exhaustion. You also want to be in charge. You can come across as aggressive, assertive, rude and intense. Type 8s may also create drama and thus lose their emotional connections with others.

How to Help Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember God provides for every need and every person, this includes you.
2. Practice stillness. Being still allows you the opportunity to identify less with what you do and more of who you are in Christ. It gives you to be vulnerable with God about your struggles and weaknesses.
3. Help others even when you fear rejection, being used, or connecting with others on a deeper level. As Carrie Kintz says, “Wisely pushing ourselves in this area goes a long way toward helping us learn to trust, not only between us and the Lord but with others as well.”

Type 9: The Peacemaker

What Type 9s Fear: Your underlying fear is being separated from others. You fear of loss, unresolved conflict, relational tension, expressing your own ideas/dreams/opinions and saying “no.” Deep down, you want to feel at peace.

Why You Fear: Type 9s often believe the lie that you are what you do, and what you do is keep everything swimming along. Somewhere along the way, you picked up the message that your wants, opinions, needs and dreams don’t matter.

How Your Fear Manifests Itself: Because of your fear, you are the most likely of all the types to self-forget: you “forget” your own priorities, thoughts and goals. You may disengage from people and your emotions instead of participating or engaging in confrontation and conversation. It’s also hard for you to get started on projects because you’re deflecting your own priorities. You can be passive-aggressive, ambivalent and have trouble making decisions. Type 9s want to believe that all is well, and as a result, you may end up engaging in numbing behaviors like withdrawing from others.

How to Work Through the Fear:
1. Remember God sees you, and your life very much matters to Him. He placed you here for a reason and He can’t wait to see how you’ll bring glory to His kingdom.
2. Practice stillness. This discipline allows you to be present to God and to learn how to show up when you’d rather opt out. Bring all you avoid into the presence of Christ and ask Him to reveal to you how aware He is of you.
3. Find an app or organizational system that allows you to stay on task. It’s easy to be pulled multiple directions as a peacemaker. A good task-management system will help you stay focused on what you need to do today and what your life-long priorities and goals are, without the influence of the requests of others.

This piece was originally featured on Jill E. McCormick’s blog. Used with permission.